You’re On A Spiral Staircase

I don’t think a single Abundance Practice-Building Group gets completed without me referencing the spiral staircase. This usually occurs in the 5th week of the group which is focused solely on money (and thus security and self-worth and all the other things we associate with it). Here’s how it usually happens: one of my group members shares that they are struggling with X. They mention that they used to struggle with X in the past, thought they were passed it, and now it’s rearing it’s ugly head…

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Fear of Being Seen

I got to consult with Wesley Little in June. She’s a total go-getter. Even while talking about places that she needs help, she comes across as confident. Her website comes across as confident. So I was really excited that she pitched this fear of being seen blog post. We often don’t realize that the part of us that other people see isn’t always reflective of what we feel. Especially when we’re quaking in our boots. As I read the following post, I just kept nodding my head. I’ve sooooo been there…

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Lower The Bar

It was an interesting experience when twice in a 12 hour period I was instructed to “lower the bar.” Those exact words. The first was Nikki Elledge Brown’s new venture Naptime Empires. When I heard those words, tears sprang to my eyes and a sense of being seen and known in combination with a strong “I don’t wanna!!!!” pounded in my chest. It’s something I’d been needing to hear. Then at 5:30 the next morning, my meditation app, Muse, instructed the same thing. “Lower the bar.” Fuck!

In case you’r…

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You Don't Need A Consultant

In a facebook group I watched the unfolding of one of variations of the “consultants aren’t helpful and are out for your money” conversation. I watch these with interest and a tinge of fear. Is it me they’re talking about? Do they think I’m one of the money-grubbers who takes advantage?

So, let me be 100% totally clear: You don’t need a consultant. You can build your practice without one just fine.

I don’t want anyone to get the impression that they’re going to crash and burn without the support …

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Why We're All Gryffindors

Harry Potter has been there for me in a way few fictional characters have. When life gets tough and I need a break from the toughness, I need something all consuming to distract me and Harry and crew provide that.

Also, in that whole “which 3 fictional characters are you” thing that went around social media a while back, I’m like 25% Hermione and 75% Leslie Knope. (I never posted that because is says “which THREE” and I’m a rule follower, obvi.) Anyway, that’s to say it’s not just Harry and what…

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Signs You’re Building The Wrong Practice (and What to Do About It)

Signs You’re Building The Wrong Practice (and What to Do About It)

For those of you who have worked in toxic agencies, do you remember the “Sunday Scaries*?” Laying in bed, dreading the work week. Maybe you didn’t go to brunch or get together with friends on Sundays in order to have enough downtime to bear the next 5 days.

It’s places like that that led me to private practice. In my last job, I never knew if I’d be therapizing my clients or my coworker-friends more on any given day. Or if I’d be t…

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What To Expect Your First Year: Part 2

Last week we talked about what to expect in your first year of practice. I left you hanging. Sorry about that! While I think it’s great to spend some time acknowledging that you aren’t a weirdo and that what you’re feeling is normal, sometimes it helps to have an answer to “Ok, so this is typical, now what?” Below are some suggestions for you that have helped me and those I’ve worked with along the way.

What To Do About Those First Year Experiences

Impostor Syndrome

Rest in what’s true. Even if…

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What To Expect Your First Year, Part 1

When I first started working with folks who’d experienced trauma I used a handout. A you’re-not-crazy-these-reactions-are-normal-for-this-circumstance list of symptoms with brief descriptions of why. One of the members of the Abundance Facebook Group (jump in!) said it would be helpful to have a list of normative experiences in the early days of your practice. A brilliant suggestion and I’m happy to flesh it out like that list I used back in the day.

I’m not going to pretend like there’s ONE exp…

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Two Days To Build Your Practice

I haven’t written for the sake of promotion since last August when I went on my launch/promotional blitz and hated it. Those of you who hung in there with me through that, thanks!

Last week I talked about how one of the company values is that we are ambitious and not afraid to sell. Then I sat down to write this post and found that I was, in fact, stupidly squeamish about telling you about what I truly consider an opportunity.

If we were having coffee I wouldn’t feel that way. Like if you said, …

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9 Tips for Private Practice Marketing

You know how I preach stockpiling your blog posts so you never have one breathing down your neck? Here’s a confession: I used my blogging time to house hunt for all of June and July. Totally one of those “do as I say, not as I do” things. Eek! The good news is that we’re under contract on a house we love (or rather, whose potential we love… helloooooo renovations) so my blogging time will be restored. The other good news is that I happened to do a webinar on 9 Tips for Private Practice Marketing…

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